At first I took things to the extreme and started touching women at any opportunity I could. As soon as I approached I’d be touching her arm, playing with her jewelry, taking her by the hand and leading her somewhere.
But these amateurish attempts along with years of trial and error revealed to me that it’s not a matter of implementing a set of steps, like pressing buttons on a machine. If you do that you’ll just come off as robotic and fake.
True intimate touch requires an appreciation of women that allows you to touch them in a very specific way. It starts from within.
A woman won’t be aroused if you’re methodically touching her arm, then neck, then thigh, thinking it’s leading towards sex.
She will however be receptive to an internally cultivated desire to express your appreciation of her through touch.
It’s not about touching her hand because that’s the next step in the list.
It’s about touching her hand because you want to feel the softness of her skin, how delicate her fingers are, to play with them underneath the table when you’re sipping coffee.